Warning: This story is sad, graphic and disheartening.
I have been MIA for the last week. I am posted a few pics but they haven't been recent. (Well, the baby food pics were before our nightmare of a week) I almost didn't post about this, but so many of you love and care about Cohen, that I thought I would share our story, plus maybe we can prevent this from happening to someone else! I also haven't posted Cohen's 5 month stats and picture. We celebrated 5 months on the 11th. We have so much to celebrate! I promise to do that soon.
It all started last Friday afternoon. Not this past Friday. I mean like over a week ago Friday. We took Cohen to his 4 mo. well check almost a month late because it kept getting pushed back because of his RSV over the Christmas break. Dr. McCray was so glad to see he was on the road to recovery. His lungs sounded great and she was very happy with all the milestones he has reached and how wonderful he looked! She said in a joking way " I don't want to see you guys for 6 more weeks, until his 6 month well check" Meaning, she doesn't want him in the office sick.
Well, the nightmare began that Saturday morning. He woke up with a fever of 103.5 We thought he may be having a reaction to vaccinations, in which case a fever is very common, although 103 seemed a bit high. We gave him Tylenol and canceled our plans for the day. I called the nurse line and my great friend Rebecca (who was my best friend growing up and have reconnected since my pregnancy. She is SO good to me! I call her my 24 hour personal nurse line. So lucky to have her in my life again!) Tylenol was not bringing the fever down and diarreahea had begun. By the time 4pm rolled around and the fever still hadn't subsided, our doctor informed us to head to the ER. Yes, the ER. Again. This is a very emotional thing for two new parents and a sweet baby boy. Mimi joined us on this trip. It was not a fun one. Cohen was poked with an IV needle for bloodwork. The good news was we had done a great job of keeping him hydrated for the day so he wouldn't need fluids. But, they kept it in just in case. The pain is undescribable to see your baby in that much pain. They couldn't find a good vein. Must have gotten that from mommy. (see birth story post) Then they had to test his urine which meant a catheter.Enough said. Then they took a stool sample. Then they did a chest xray. Then we had to wait and wait and wait. We were sent home with nothing. No results, no explanation. Nothing.
All we could do was keep him fed, changed, and hydrated until results came back. Monday rolled around and nothing got better. No one had slept. His bottom had become raw from so many diapers. We were changing atleast 20 diapers a day. Very dangerous. Very hard. Very sad. In fact, it is bringing tears to my eyes now, and we are at the end of the road of this sickness. But, it still hurts. We were in the doctor's office 3 days this past week. Fortunately, John was able to stay home all week and my VP was nice enough to let me leave my class with my teammates so I could go with Cohen and John to the appointments.
We spent this entire past week waiting on fecal results. Some tests were coming back negative during the week. Good. But, not good enough for me. We wanted answers. Just answers and for Cohen to start getting well. John and I were literally up every hour for days changing his diaper, feeding him, holding him, comforting him. Thank God for John. He is an amazing father. Patient, loving, comforting, wise, strong. Just more reasons to be so thankful for our lives coming together.
By the time Friday afternoon rolled around with no results from the lab, I couldn't take it any longer. I called the doctors office in tears. Just tell me what to do! Please! I can' go another whole weekend watching him suffer. Dr. McCray got on the phone immediately and reassured me that Cohen was going to be ok, as long as we kept doing the things we were doing. And she assured me I'd get a phone call by Saturday, letting me know the results.
Saturday, my mom came over and gave us some time to get out and run errands. All day long I waited for "the call." Finally, it came! The news was not good, but it was not bad. Not as bad as it could have been. (All week long, I felt so bad for the people in Haiti, suffering, dying, not having access to medicine or Pedialyte or food or doctors. I imagined mothers feeling desperate and alone and scared for their babies. I couldn't imagine the way they felt, knowing how I felt)
Dr. McCray confirmed that Cohen had salmonella bacteria growing in his intestinal areas. Worry and panic struck me. That sounded HORRIBLE. But, in fact, it happens in babies. More often than we'd like to think. Where did this happen? Well, we can't pinpoint that. John and I haven't been sick, so she said it likely wasn't from our home. He could have gotten it from daycare. Maybe someone didn't wash their hands well after changing someone else and made him a bottle. I don't want to believe that because I believe in my heart they try their very best to make sure their 10 kids stay safe and healthy. But, it could have happened. Yes. He could have touched some other child who had the bacteria on his hand and put it in his mouth. It could have been the waitress at the restaraunt we went to the week before who grabbed Cohen's hand. Maybe she didn't wash her hands after the bathroom. Although I washed his hand furiously with a paci wipe as soon as she walked away. I can't pinpoint it, but I can try to prevent this again. It's gross and disgusting and NOT fair to him. You can think I am dramatic. That's fine. But, this has been hard. Maybe it's another "hard thing" on the road to many other things raising a baby. I am sure it is. But, I don't wish it on anyone!
I'm exhausted from rehashing this. Cohen is getting better and is on an antibiotic and is not contagious and is happy. That's what matters now. But, I warn you, if you thought I was a crazed clean freak, hand washing, hand sanitizer using nut before, you can bet I will be even worse now! :)
Thanks for listening. And thanks for praying for Cohen <3